Jan Carey, LCSW

Hello! I am a sex therapist who is passionate about delivering sex therapy to my clients! What I know about relationships and sex I learned the hard way, as I am also divorced.  What I remember was that awful feeling of not being able to speak up to get my needs met as well as not always being clear what my feelings were, because at the time I wasn't so comfortable about who I was, how I looked, and what I offered within the relationship.  It made things super sticky to negotiate because if you don't know who you are or what you really want, asking for it becomes almost impossible!  What I know for sure also includes the awareness that if your relationship tool bag wasn't packed in childhood by the family who raised you, you're going to have to gather your tools on the job, so to speak.  I believe the first step in getting things back in synch between you and your partner involves improving communication, which involves learning to speak up, even if what you say isn't recieved well, and then learning to listen to your partner's complaints about you - even if it hurts.  Remaining calm in the face of differences is really what every solid relationship requires. The good news is that I can help you with this!

Do you struggle with a lack of desire?  Erectile dysfunction?  Painful sex?  Early ejaculation? A history of sexual abuse? Confusion regarding your gender or sexual orientation? Relationship conflict?  I'd really like to help you (and your partner) claim the birthright of an awesome sexual relationship, call me let's talk.